We spoke to a professional healer who has spent five years navigating the intriguing world of energy work to answer the most burning questions about love spells, their effectiveness, ethics, and why the younger generation seems so drawn to this magical pursuit.
What exactly is a love spell?
A: A love spell is essentially a ritual-based practice designed to influence someone’s (referred to as a “Special Person”) romantic feelings toward the individual performing the ritual. These practices vary widely, from chanting specific affirmations over a set period to using common household items like honey, sugar, bay leaves, or cinnamon. On a deeper level, love spells may involve using energy/intention-specific words or engaging in more complex magical practices, often guided by an expert mentor on spiritually significant days, usually Full Moon or New Moon nights.
In particularly desperate situations, some individuals may hire a professional to perform the spell on their behalf in the hopes of initiating or rekindling a romantic relationship, whether the person is already known or not.
Do love spells work? Or is it all a placebo? Are they backed by some Occult Science concept or is there a Psychological tangent involved?
Just like any other belief system, nothing is guaranteed. It ultimately depends on your faith, surrender, and willpower. Scientifically, love spells align with the concept of the Law of Attraction: you send an intention out into the universe and continue to fuel it with thought, feeling, and action until it materialises into reality.
Psychologically speaking, they operate somewhere between subconscious conditioning and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), although more aligned with subconscious influence. While love spells are officially categorised as a healing modality, their effectiveness remains subjective. In my five-year career as a professional healer, I’ve never met anyone who claimed a 100% success rate with love spells. I’ve found other modalities to be more reliable and result-driven.
Are love spells safe? Can they backfire? What about the ethics of consent?
A: This is where things become ethically murky. The effectiveness of a love spell is not only questionable, but it also intersects with personal free will, both yours and the other person’s. Add to that destiny and Divine Will, and you begin to see how complicated it truly is.
Everyone is constantly evolving—physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. And you can only truly manage your growth, and that too, only under proper guidance. Not all love stories are destined to last forever. Sometimes, that love was meant to awaken something within you, either through shared growth or heartbreak.
It’s vital to remember: this is energy work. Accessing someone’s energetic field without their consent is, in my belief, wholly unethical. This isn’t just about casting a spell—it’s about understanding the spiritual implications behind it.
Why are Gen Z & millennials so into it now?
A: Blame it on the chaotic lifestyle Gen Z adheres to! Everything has become superficial and fast-paced, leaving little room for emotional depth and relationship stability. Are people genuinely looking for partners, or just someone they can flaunt on social media?
Unrealistic standards of physical appearance and social status have taken center stage. People start dating but are unwilling to invest the time and patience needed for a bond to mature. For many, love has become synonymous with physical pleasure.
I once had a 23-year-old client who came in for a tarot reading. She was frustrated that she hadn’t found “true love” and hadn’t had sex in over a year since her breakup. Her desperation created a mental block—she couldn’t see herself beyond being sexually fulfilled or being someone’s girlfriend who checked all the right boxes.
A lack of patience, poor self-awareness, and an unstable emotional foundation often drive younger people toward shortcuts like love spells.
Can love spells help you heal or manipulate? How to differentiate between manifestation & manipulation?
A: Manifestation works on the principle of the Law of Attraction. You attract externally what you are internally. In other words, your “state of being” is key—how you feel and exist in your presence deeply influences what you draw into your life.
You could spend a fortune seeking spellcasting services, but the sustainability of the relationship you attract hinges entirely on who you are inside. Your person might return, but will they stay? For how long?
If you’re operating from a place of fear or desperation, then you’re not manifesting—you’re manipulating. Manipulating not just your energy, but the other person’s too. That’s not love. That’s selfishness. And that kind of love comes with consequences for both parties involved.
How to tell if a spellcaster is real or fake? What are the red flags to look for when engaging for guidance or ritual services?
A: This is a tricky one. When you’re heartbroken, you’re vulnerable. You don’t want the truth—you want hope, comfort, and a soothing promise that things will work out. This often leads to delusion.
So, if a love spell fails, it’s not always the spell caster’s fault. In my understanding, there are two kinds of energy work—those that offer surface-level fixes and those that involve deep, transformative healing.
Spellcasting is often just the first step toward inner healing. Red flags to watch for include:
- Demanding exorbitant amounts of money
- Asking for excessive personal details
- Mentions of black magic (which can have severe reverse effects)
- Creating a dependency loop of ongoing rituals
Always trust your intuition. Your Higher Self knows what’s truly aligned with you. If something feels off—don’t ignore it.
Final Thoughts:
Love is a powerful emotion, but without wisdom, it becomes suffering.
Love without wisdom becomes obsession.
Love without space becomes control.
Love without trust becomes fear.
Love should feel like home, not a battlefield. If you are constantly fighting for peace, you’re in the wrong place. No one completes you. You were born whole. The right love helps you grow—it doesn’t fill a void. You should never have to lose yourself to keep someone else. True love strengthens your essence, not erases it.
The real work? It always begins within—deep inside your Conscious and Subconscious self.
Love and Light
Popular Love Spell Practices:
HONEY JAR SPELL | CANDLE MAGIC | BINDING SPELLS | REUNION SPELLS | HERBAL SPELLS | FULL MOON & NEW MOON RITUALS
The ingredients, timing, and “magic” words used in these rituals are simply tools to enhance and channel your intention. Whether performed personally or with the help of an expert, the true power lies not in the spell, but in you.
Guest writer
Mrs. Shachi Singh Bedi—a tarot card reader, numerologist, energy healer, and life coach
You can send your queries to Sharan2divine@gmail.com